Diary of a Muslimah


‘A’isha reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Kinship (rahim) is derived from Allah. If anyone maintains ties of kinship Allah maintains ties with him. If anyone cuts them off, Allah cuts him off.”

Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 55
In-book reference : Book 2, Hadith 9
English translation : Book 2, Hadith 55

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” I am cute
         I’m slim

          I hate my life

      There is this girl in my class and I really like her but she had never, for once looked at me. I thought it was because I wasn’t fat enough, she seems to like fat guyz. So sometime last month I started going to the gym for fattening exercises. I have added, but just five pounds but she still isn’t interested.

Whats wrong with me. And how can make her fall in love with me?  So you have any suggestion? I don’t want to be too fat. 


 I am actually very hardworking and I don’t want to look randy. But this girl is very important. Should I go ahead? She makes me happy even though she doesn’t know it. I am so doomed right now, I just want to die.

But do you think she will love me, or even have my attention If I add more weight?”

   We see problems like this every day, maybe less , similar, or worse. We need Answers please.
   What I will suggest to you in a situation like this is you be yourself.

Forget about your looks. Especially when it is natural.

Get her attention in other ways.

Many men today fall into these because they have not discovered what they are truly good at when it comes to gaining the attention of that “right” woman.

Some just go with a rush and get red lights. Justify your actions by being the man you truly want to be to the one you truly love. Be calm to learn what else  interests her apart from the basic ones you can’t fulfill.

You must not be fat for her to like you. In fact, she might even be worse of with you if  In any way along the line she realise you loosed your true nature because of her.  Except it you would want to do that for the main time. By the way t doing that and changing later wouldn’t speak well of you or make it any better because you will gradually loose her trust in you. She might not tell you that to your face of course, but her definition of your personality would be of that “guy who does to please girls” or ” confused dude”.

It is not like it isn’t good to please or impress sometimes but not something in this kind of situation. It is obvious the fattening exercises truly is not working for you or your health and you also don’t like the idea.

  1. So set it straight and get your priorities right. Look for other ways to get her.  Maybe interesting books she likes.
  2. Who she likes to cruiz with, shares secrets with and her rapour with family.
  3. And kind of clothes, perfumes she likes.
  4. Kind of Movies, foodies, drinks and all that
  5. Her mood and how it swings.

Ladies would rather go for me who are confident in everything they are. 

Yes, every relationship has a standard. People are different. You can’t definitely compete with the fat guyz. They already have their pretty good roles to play.  Maybe that’s why she seems to like them.

Some ladies just date guyz for fun. Not really with a purpose.  So be sure which one she is and if she is ready to be as serious as you seem to be.

Ladies care more about the emotional availability of a man rather than just his presence.

Be on the same page with her. 

Be there when you are needetoo

Some ladies actually consider the looks these days. If not most. But for sure you will get her attention if you focus more on the clicks. I mean, on the unique features you love about yourself. Love your self be proud of yourself and let it reflect in you when you eventually win her heart. Learn how to do do the talk.

It is not a mission Impossible
   Note: this post is subject to update

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          You will come back to me.


                After you have danced along

          the busy road.

          And made big friends

          who made it to the otherside

          …I am here, on  Happy street

          Stepping, and counting on the pebbles 

          Of our past heyllo

          And from The other side

          They make you happier 

          It’s only for now.

          When your stem return

          It will be because of them

          You would  have left them

          Because they mean well

          But not deep not sweet

          As me, i was your root

          You will come back to me

          To restart where you halt

            you wanted comforts

          I would have given it to you

          Perhaps it would have made you stay

          But I didn’t 

               You left me

          You would have done same

          If I gave you your want

               I know you miss me

          Sometimes deny

          You smoke this thought into the

          Fire of your bitterness

          But this I know.   I

          Feel your presence

          In your absence

          I hear your voice

          In your speechlessness

          I percieve the odour of urine on your cold toes. -You have been walking on the bits of air-  you froze yourself to no control
                 I remember all the sincere things and feelings meant

            You will come home

          It doesn’t matter

          if I will not be there to welcome you.

          You will come back to me.





            For some reason. I’m reluctant to publish this blog post. It’s not a topic I’m an expert on, and academics are generally cautious about writing on something they haven’t researched, due to the fear of being shredded by someone with a PhD  in sociology of relationships and 20 years’ experience in the field of marriage  or relationship counselling and love psychology.

          I’m also worried about making things worse, about saying the wrong thing and invoking the collective ire of the Internet #trolls.   Or people relating all my blog post and thinking  it’s happening  to me.  This is also the kind of topic where it’s difficult not to take sides or to admit that you don’t have all the answers, because it’s so polarizing and opinionated.
          I have posted somethings about http://ego as a matchette to a relationship
          http://ego as a man I hope they were helpful.  But the truth  is

          When friends  tell me how the bitter taste of their relationship  make them puke over the cracks of life, I feel there’s  something there’s  to be done.
            Here’s what I have to say :
          Don’t  believe  me just read:D


          Remember that saying?
          the surest way of mending  your heart is quickly going  into a new relationship”.

          Oh dear, if you work with that I hope you come out safe because  it doesn’t  make sense  for someone  to rush into a new relationship  with a wounded heart.

          1 You  will not just transfer the agression  of the past relationship to the present
          2  You will unconsciously/unconsciously become  so hiper sensitive and defensive over little things
             Among  others, this will infect  your present relationship with early signs of potential  breakup threats. That sure doesn’t smell good!
          In every relationship, two people share a mental and physical
          relationship with each other. The love which was once shared between the two is, somehow, lost now and which definitely would take some time to recover. But before that, you’ll have to
          be prepared mentally.
          Why not solve it other ways.

          Does crying makes you less of a man?
          Man! Wake up. Crying for things that actually meant a lot to
          you don’t make you any less of a man

               That one tear, that tiny, salty, droplet of moisture is a means of escape. So small a tear, yet so heavy a relief  And it doesn’t do a damn thing to fix anything.

          Dont be shamed to weep; ’tis right to grieve. Tears are only water, and flowers, trees, and fruit cannot grow without water. But there must be sunlight also. A wounded heart will heal in time, and when it does, the memory and love of our lost ones is sealed inside to comfort us”            Chase Brooks

          BE IN CHARGE
          You have cried enough. Now. Wipe those tears off and Control your heart. Surround yourself with things that makes you happy. Happiness is immateral if it comes from within. An immaterial  thing is unique and expensive,  that is what makes you strong_ Creating  your happiness!
          Don’t  buy cheap happiness by soley depending  on him or her to bring it to you. Get it yourself.


          Don’t cry over the things which aren’t in your control

          Don’t cry over the people who doesn’t love you back
          Don’t cry over people who doesn’t value you
          Don’t cry over the feelings which lead you nowhere
          Don’t cry over your past, it’s gone. Gone far .”                 
                                                  Summit official

          If you keep finding  yourself  in the thrust  of a spouse  who repeatedly  keeps doing  thing to hurt you. The thing to is run and don’t  give him/her such opportunity . Recognise the difference  between  being  in love and being senseless. The blinding shades of the love you both share is enough  don’t  let oppression  add up dark shades.  You will end up thanking  God such a person  us out of your life.

          Pls share your view.
          Will bring you more soon
          Thanks. 🙂