I can’t remember where I found this article… Its also persuasive. I found myself want to try the learning the technique of persuasion
I was in a store last week and a man came to me trying to advertise a new Green Tea. He said excuse, i turned
and he said “do you live around here”?
The next on my mind was who is this Man and why the question. I had to respond politely giving him a different description *just for safety* then guffed and moved to the other end of the store in avoidance of futher question.
Now i came across an article of Carolyn O’Hara and i noticed that
If you want to convince someone to support your project, or explain to an employee how he might improve, or inspire a team that’s struggling, you need to tell a persuasive, compelling story.
This made me believe that persuation is beyond just giving exact detail.
Have somebody ever looked at you for a steady time and you start feeling uncomfortable? If your answer is yes then it means the person was trying to study your outward response.
You see that’s a way to achieving passuation from what i discovered
To persuade this question must be asked
In the part two series of this read we will go further to ask and possibly answer a few questions about persuation.
But before then what do you think- Is persuasion Art or Science?.
Even homogeneous societies still delve into self manageable or micro-identities.
. God created the earth.
2. “Let’s make man…” and so forth.
3. People have one language and in agreement and try to build a tower.
4. God confuses their language and scatters them around the world,including West Africa.
“Whoever is killed under the banner of blind following, which calls to tribalism or supports tribalism, then he has died upon ignorance.” The prophet muhammad.S.A.W.
What is peculiar to ethnicity or tribalism is that “it involves demands by one group on other competing group(s)” (Nnoli; 2008). Chinua Achebe in his view describes ethnicity “as discrimination against a citizen because of his/her place of birth” (Achebe; 1997).
Islam doesn’t preach tribalism. Therefore, anyone who practices it is following his own personal goal.
We are born into ethnic and tribal communities that endow upon us identities, histories, legacies, pains, joys, struggles and potentials and mostly pride.
The knowledge that before you there were others who contributed and added value a people and period in time, bettering the lot and leaving historical tales and stories challenging and demanding that you know about them and add a measure equal or more than what was.
It would be a bore to share the same historical perspective with everyone you meet with in a bus or at work…where’s the fun in that.
Even homogeneous societies still breakdown into self manageable or micro-identities
“Whoever is killed under the banner of blind following, which calls to tribalism or supports tribalism, then he has died upon ignorance.”
Sentiments have always been part of The background and back fall of this country. When an outsider wants to penetrate into the peace of this country it is always through tribalism and enthnic / territorial sentiments.
“He is not one of us who calls to tribalism. He is not one of us who fights for the sake of tribalism. He is not one of us who dies following the way of tribalism.” (
Protesters are protesting through non-protest means. How much result is expected from looting, and killing.
Again who are among the youth is ready to listen to “it’s a fake protest Saga” when we have mostly uneducated and unemployed in the midst. The Agitatation was obviously pulled upon the background of our leadership nonchalance and mombomombo attitude towards Youth representation and being people’s party. That’s to the government but to the youth can tribalism be out of the people’s problem. It has always been a problem from Adam and i am.afraid it is, still.
Let’s start with some random quite interesting quote (so to speak)
Love needs time to be found and when found needs Intelligence to be applied to solve problem
The ability to manage our emotions and feeling is very crucial, nevertheless, so is our ability to understand and interpret the emotions of others.
Could you picture a world where you cannot understand when a friend, a spouse, a sibling, a parent, or a co-worker is depressed, sad or angry?
Psychologists refer to this ability as emotional intelligence
and some experts even suggest that it can be more important than IQ.
While IQ proves your smartness and determines 15% of your success, emotional intelligence determines 85% of your success.
Since 1990, Peter Salovey and John D Mayer have been the leading researchers on emotional intelligence.
They proposed a model which identified four different factors of emotional intelligence namely;
All the factors above enhance the smooth sailing of Marriage. This is to point out that marriage and emotional intelligence are like inseparable twin.
Since “Emotions Elites defined as a positive or negative experience that is associated with a particular pattern of physiological activity that produce different physiological, behavioral and cognitive behavior”, the more couples are able to master these four factors mentioned above, the less room they create for chaotic clashes.
Allah has made it clear to the believing men that women are more emotionally vulnerable, sensitive, responsive, and tender.
Women are emotional creatures, one minute she could be all happy and sweet and the next, she looks pale and unhappy. So, it is up to a husband to be able to put up with such moodswings and try tackle the problem.
Part of the reasons for failed marriages today inclu
Man’s will to show superiority over women.
Disobedience to the commandment of Allah.
Lack of self control
These among many others clogs one’s emotional intelligence. Hence, this is a show of arrogance to Allah. And Allah said in Qur’an 85 v 60:
“And your Lord says: “Call on Me; I will answer your (Prayer): but those who are too arrogant to serve Me will surely find themselves in Hell – in humiliation“
A man returns home from work and suddenly observes the floor is unusually becoming too sticky due to oil stains. He gets furious and tries to correct his wife but puts it in a harsh manner. Consequently, he gets a negative response or reaction from her. This is not because she intentionally intends to get picky or offended, but because she is more emotional. Thus, it is now left for the man to reconsider and apologize for his wrong choice of word or mannerism, then look for a more subtle word or expression to pass his message across. Doing this show’s his emotional intelligence – his emotional reasoning on the one hand, which is what made him prioritize what to pay attention and react to amidst other observation he made upon his return; his emotional management on the other hand, proving his ability to feel an emotion (irritated and furious) without having to act upon it.
Allah has also commanded the believing women to respect their husband and control their tongue.
In any case , women should be soft, linient understanding and know how to approach or talk to their husbands, when she called him 5 times to ask him why he forgot to get steaks from the grocery and he did pick up, to why he didn’t complement her since 3 days and not remembering their Saturday morning pre yoga ritual, everyone has emotions and the husband isn’t an exception. So wives should be try to be considerate as this gradually sums up to create a lasting impression about them and emotional intelligence.
Never forget that your relationship with your spouse is an emotional battle 24/7. So,the way you handle your emotions decides the happiness quotient ( a measure of the amount of happiness one has achieved in life) and in your married life.
In terms of tolerance and perseverance, these are some of the
QUALITIES AN EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT PERSON MUST POSSES:
Ability to understand the emotions of ur spouse from his/her view.
Capacity to make your spouse understand your emotions from your viewpoint.
Your skills to channel your emotions in the right way to make your spouse happy and content in your relationship
Your gift to realize that your spouse is an individual. So, you accept him/her for what he/she is.
For an emotionally unintelligent person:
1. You never understand the emotional need of your spouse which makes you unhappy and miserable
2.Your inability to convey your emotional needs to your spouse which makes you angry and get frustrated and dippressed.
Emotional intelligence is two sided and must be used positively. The couples inability to understand this is partly the reason for domestic violence. A man is not supposed to beat his wife, doing so is a sign of his physical strength but emotional weakness and inability to positively use his emotional intelligence. This when he let’s his emotions override his intelligence.
Rasullulah (SAW) is a perfect example for the Muslims to follow as he is the best in character and manner.
It was narrated that Aisah (R.A) said that :
“The messenger of Allah never beat his servants, or wives, and his hand never hit anything” Sunnan Ibn Maja
HOW TO ENHANCE YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE:
Don’t interrupt or change the subject
Don’t judge or edit your feelings or your spous’s too quickly
See if you can find connection between your feelings and see if other times you must have felt the same way.
Connect your feelings with your thoughts
Listen to your body and your spouses body language
If your don’t know how you are feeling ask someone else
Tune into your unconscious feelings
Ask yourself, How do I feel today?
Write your thoughts and feelings down
Know when enough is enough.
Marriage is a place of work where you are given a long term appointment. It is left to you keep your job or loose it. To develop emotional intelligence we need to practice enlarging our inner passion at every moment. It doesn’t matter what is going on in our world or even how we feel within ourselves at every moment. Infact , the best we accomplish something is when we least feel like trying because the hopeless part of our lives need the light.
Finally, the way you approach yourselves, when you need money, when you are tired, when you need his attention, when you want to complain about something he did wrong or the way you generally respond to his flaws gradually sums up to creating a lasting impression about you and says a lot about your emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is two sided and must be used positively. The couples inability to understand this is partly the reason for domestic violence. A man is not idealy supposed to beat his wife. Doing so exemplifies his physical strength but tantamount to his emotional weakness and inability to positively use his emotional intelligence. This is when he let’s his emotions override his intelligence.
A pious wife is keeper not breaker. A pious husband builds the home not collapse it. As a woman, the way you treat your husband reflects in his attitude in public. From his boost of self esteem to his successful day at work. As a man, the way you handle your wife also reflects in her face and her general comportment in public. All these are due to how peaceful your inward coexistence has been as a couple. Ability to practicalize the tenets of the religion of Islam (peace) to over power impending chaos, ability to agree to disagree, ability to master positively, your emotional intelligence help save your marriage.
#TRENDING. THE NIGERIAN REBIRTH PROJECT 2016 GETS MASSIVE SUPPORT…(DETAILS)
Team From The Nigerian Rebirth Project Led By Its Founder, Comrade Isaac Balami Recently Visited Some Royal Fathers Across The Country.am from the Nigerian Rebirth Project led by its founder, Comrade Isaac Balami recently visited some royal fathers across the country.
The familiarisation tour of palaces of Obas and Emirs and other traditional rulers is to further authenticate the genuineness and national interest which is the core objective of the Rebirth Project.
The Nigerian Rebirth Project is aimed at transforming Nigeria through a rebirth symbolically represented in a masterpiece; a concept initiated by Comrade Isaac Balami’s Cabinet-X Africa and supported by the Federal Ministry of Arts and Culture. The Rebirth Project has now reached its most active stage with its subsidiary project, the Labour Room being gradually unveiled by the founder and his associates.
The first phase of the unveiling ceremony of the Labour Room reality TV Show, Belami and his team took the key of the Labour Room to the Ooni of Ife, the Alaafin of Oyo and the Emir of Zazzau .
The team was accorded a warmth reception at the palace of the Ooni of Ife, Ogunwusi Adeyeye, as he accepted to be the royal father of the project. His endorsement of the project was the high-point of the visit where he signed on the ‘Labour Room’ symbolic key presented to him. The Ooni thanked Balami and his team for seeking his approval and assured the team of his royal and relentless support. He said he was proud of young people who not only understand that change begins with them, but equally understand that they can make the change happen now. ‘’ As the royal father of this rebirth project, I assure you of my relentless support,’’ he said.
The simplicity of the Alaafin of Oyo, Oba Lamidi Olayiwola Adeyemi, oozes everywhere when the team arrived at his palace. The Alaafin did not only endorse the rebirth project, but also hailed the team for the initiative which he said was timely. He said ‘’ I’m with you in this laudable project.’’
Speaking at the end of the various visits to the palaces, the project founder, who doubles as the President of the National Aircrafts Pilots and Engineers, Comrade Isaac Balami said he was elated by the receptions accorded the team at the various palaces. He said, ‘’the fact that we got positive responses and acceptability from our traditional rulers speaks volume of our project. That’s a plus for us. The Nigeria Rebirth Project is an initiative of passionate and patriotic Nigerians dedicated to rebuilding Nigeria through innovative and intellectually related Project. It has a segment called the ‘Labor Room’ where young Nigerian entrepreneurs are expected to come together to discuss issues that will herald the beginning of the New Super Nation of our Dream.
“The idea is that we do not want Nigerians to be seen as people who want to cut corners, we want them to be seen as people who really know who they are and strive to get what they want.
“I’m overwhelmed by the support of our traditional rulers. “Their positive remarks are now extra booster to this laudable project. We are still going round the country, and we will still meet with more traditional rulers for endorsement, support and prayers,” Balami said.
Meanwhile, a rebirth conference has been scheduled to hold on September 20, 2016 at the Congress Hall of Transcorp Hilton, Abuja. Royal fathers, captains of industry and other dignitaries will be in attendance. The event which is strictly by invitation will be attended by the wife of the President, Aisha Buhari.